Toxic If Not Harming, Today's Dating Habits Of Millennials.

We are left constantly wondering where relationships are headed. Nobody is clear about their intentions.

Author: June Aluoch

As a millennial, dating is complicated and tedious. Technology has brought about online dating and therefore people become more disposable because there are so many new people you can meet while you are judging someone based on a picture.

The common habits are orbiting, breadcrumbing and ghosting.

• Orbiting is digitally observing a prospective love interest. It's also when someone stops talking to you but still engages with your social media.

• Breadcrumbing is when someone continually stays in contact with you but makes no commitment or plans to see you. It means leading someone on by contacting them intermittently – be that by phone or social media – to keep them interested.

• Ghosting is when someone you are dating abruptly stops communicating with you without explanation. I think everyone has ghosted and has been ghosted by others.

When dating in the millennial, marriage is not a must anymore. Women are these days more educated and hence men are luxuries not necessities.

Matching with a handsome guy or a beautiful girl online does not mean you two will click in real life because both of you may have clashing personalities.

Millennials are also hyper-focused on sex. There is zero effort made into getting to know someone for who they truly are unless we are willing to undress. Most of the time sex does not lead to a relationship but to a heartache, confusion or a one-night stand.

Millennials are in competition of who can care the least.

Showing actual emotions is heavily frowned upon. If we act like we are interested, it leaves the person we are affectionate about turned off and running to the opposite direction instead of being curious and flattered.

We are too strategic about our responses. Responding right away comes across as being desperate and too available. We try to withhold our responses to try to show how busy, important and unattached we are.

We expect perfection that does not exist. Social media and dating profiles shoved in our faces lead us to believe we are entitled to a fairy tale life that does not exist. We write people off for minor details.

We fail to realize that relationships are a balanced bond and that the amazing things come in imperfections as well.

We are always stuck in a grey area. Almost relationships and no strings attached sex are the millennial versions of commitment.

We are left constantly wondering where relationships are headed. Nobody is clear about their intentions.

Lastly, millennials do not feel accountable for the pain we inflict on others. When we hurt someone's feelings, we don’t feel even the slightest concern. We decline to apologize or correct our wrongs. When a person's emotions are hurt caused by something we did or said, it’s up to them to resolve them.