How To Control Anger

The scenario kept coming in my thoughts throughout the day and I couldn’t believe myself and how a simple thing had made me go out of control.

Author: Irakoze Gisèle

I like to write, (maybe I should say I love writing). Every time I start writing it’s as if I’m starting a conversation in my mind; Where my brain tells my senses to activate a mode of relief, expression, evaluation. Where I type or write unlimitedly for expressing my feelings or for feeling comfortable

I couldn’t think of any possible way my writing could be someone else’s inspiration or help to come out of their comfort zones/ or to help them overcome a situation or whatever why not just a random thing to make their days brighter

I love to write about myself (funny right 😂!?) I mean who exposes herself u mean!? (I know) well that’s maybe because I’m too bad at fictions and I’m such an open book (I’m human) in fact and facts are every time.

I write about anything that I go through people relate to themselves, it is not that I am too naive to share my life but it’s rather because I find it better writing with a purpose and that is to help others in one way or another.

Okay enough of the talking and explanation let’s move to our topic.

Well well, Anger huh. What do we know about anger!?

Anger is a natural reaction and feeling that comes as a result of a threat, bad or unpleasant experience (I made that up, almost).

Every human is created with anger, however it depends on how we control it or how we choose to expose it. Some people including me think anger is not as bad as it sounds but what we do when we are angry is what makes anger the worst of it all.

I have been struggling with anger control a lot of times in the past, until last year I realized I needed to learn to control my anger once for all because I was hurting people I love and also myself. But lately, it back came again.

I would find myself getting angry at almost everything and everyone even for little things. Like, I went into a shop looking for a printer. It turned out that the seller didn’t even know how to use a printer!

Instead of being kind enough to him, I laughed and was so hard at him (let me not go into details, you’d certainly hate me and I don’t want that)

After realizing what I had just done I felt so bad for what I did and how rude I was to an innocent man who was somehow my dad’s age. I tried to calm down and begged the man to forgive me for my impertinent behavior.

The scenario kept coming in my thoughts throughout the day and I couldn’t believe myself and how a simple thing had made me go out of control.

I realized I needed to change and not exactly change but learning to control my anger and these are the tips that helped me. I think they might help you too (hopefully).

1. Know yourself.

It is normal that as humans we have our differences and that’s totally fine because our differences make us who we are (unique), and being unique does not mean being perfect, a human being has his strengths and weaknesses!

Knowing myself as a person who gets upset and angry easily helps me limit myself to be in situations that could make me angry

2. Accept your habit.

Some habits come naturally or hereditarily and some come because of different things we go through in life. Accepting my habits has been one of the ways that helps me know that sometimes I do not have to panic or pretend being something I am not, just seeking acceptance.

3. Seek and embrace Change.

What do we live for if it's not for learning from our experiences and become better every time we can?! What comes after knowing who we are and accepting unsettling facts about us?

It is like evaluation! After self evaluation, we know what we need to change or improve. We can get that through reading books, watching videos on these concerns, and talk to people that have experienced that (I love this one, it is more relatable and practical to me).

4. Protect yourself.

Why this right?! You must be wondering. As mentioned earlier, we need to minimize risks of getting in situations that make us angry, so what if we do?

What if it happened? What should we do whenever people frustrate us or every time something burns out our anger!

This is why we need to make sure we protect ourselves in ways that help us control the anger. I personally, (if someone offends me or wrongs me) like to do 3 things and they have always been helpful.

• First of all: I give myself a distance from the person that wronged me to ensure I do not cry and embarrass myself or say inappropriate things. When I am away I take time to cool down and forgive before the person even approaches me for forgiveness.

• Secondly: I finding a person I trust, to talk to and to help me cool down and release my anger.

• Last but not least: I distract myself by watching funny videos, writing or anything that can help me forget what happened.

I hope these things and more you can be able control anger before it ruins you. And remember, it takes time and that’s okay to go through the process as long as it leads to victory!

Do you have something you struggle with like anger? Please reach out and share your thoughts on how you deal with it in the comment section below.