Overcome The Urge To Impress Others-JUST BE YOU!

Impressing others have become a new play card in our generation. What does it take to be proud of who you are? Life is a gift not be wasted anyhow. Stop living the life of others because no one will live yours.

Author: Dushime Kagina Azza

Millions of people live in the shadow of others unknowingly. Some break down to end of a dark abyss. Others fall gently on a slight edge for them to realize their wrong turns.

Recently, I passed by a shopping mall and met an adorable teen girl looking for outfits. Funnily amazing, she only wanted a pair that would jaw drop everybody she crosses path with. She did not want it so bad, but how could she represent herself better than anyone could if not so?

It made me wonder, how people find more joy in pleasing others. I mean, is it so important to consider other people’s feelings and attitudes over your own?

You find yourself doing all sort of things to make others happy. When there is no space for your happiness, then you'll live other people’s lives not yours.

“It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.” ~ Marcus Aurelius.

Why “others” in the first place though? It is in human nature to want to impress others. However, you should be aware that they are human beings like you. Some have this tendency more than you do. Being overwhelmed by their derogatory remarks stops you from being ‘‘ real you’’.

You should normalize hearing and understanding things like;

• I hate your manners.

• I do not love your looks.

They are just things you cannot control, and if you do, you will never meet everyone’s expectations.

Come to think of this, you barely know people you meet. Isn't it not listening to them in the first place a lethal approach? It is indeed! Once taken, always granted.

Sadly, the people you are so eager to delight do not care about what you do or how you do it. You can impress many or few, it all depends, but you can never impress all.

There are various reasons why you prioritize the thoughts and opinions of peers. It is often due to backgrounds you are unable to change or the society in which you live.

BACKGROUND

Parents, siblings and other relatives play a vital role in your daily life. The attitudes and love you are brought up with, is what you reflect once you are a grown-up. Beware of how to treat children in their early ages; one wrong move can destroy whatever they have.

It is rare to Plant indifference intentionally but we do either way, not to mention it is harm to any of the victims i.e. showing a kid that he/she is superior to the other or sweet-talking the one you love more often brings conflicts in family and discomfort to children.

Being raised in a such circumstance triggers the victims to do all sort of things to show off, as they become teenagers, the behavior grows deeper to impress everyone around them.

Approval from others, being praised in the crew is what satisfies individuals who have been left behind for so long.

They tend to do anything either good or bad to seek for the attention and love. Because they want to be treated better than they have ever been hence the outcome of impressing everyone. Identifying the root cause of the problem can be the first step to tackle with it.

SOCIETY

On the other hand, it is about friends you hang out with not your family. There are some toxic people who know how to plant their bombs right until you burst into flames and burn into ashes!

Many friends are good at uttering harsh words to their fellows. Mostly, it is about looks, moves, activities, behaviors, dos and donts.

Take an example of students teasing or mocking others in schools; they sometimes push their colleagues to end up in awful situations just to fit in.

It's not fair and civilized to criticize your fellows because no one can ever be perfect, and no one is in position to treat others wrong.

Friends are supposed to stand side-by-side, support each other in one way or another. If yours don't, they are not friends to keep although it may take forever to recognize who to lean on and who to drop.

Every time you go against your will to look better for your friends or to fit in the squad, there is a part of you buried along. Lack of self-conscience, confidence and inner peace broadens day by day.

A change is always a challenge that only you can face. It starts with the will to overcome the urge to impress others. Below, I shortlisted how to…

Be true to yourself

Try out things you want to explore and do whatever it takes to make yourself happy. Take decisions you will be responsible for and above all, make everything happen without anyone’s consent but yours. You are the one to recognize how worthy you are.

Take the lead

Look around, from all people you want to impress, who is trying harder to impress you back? None, because they take the lead. Start making rules in your empire. Your life, your lead!

Get rid of people who discourage you regardless of the efforts you put in, surround yourself with those who see the good in you until you give it your best shot.

Find joy in you

Being satisfied and happy for who you are and for what you have diminishes the need to impress everyone. Give it more of your time and energy to build yourself.

Do whatever it takes to be proud of yourself, of all the people to impress, the first and foremost is “YOU”