In Life You'll Be hurt. Is it Okay To Remain In Pain?

Author: Irakoze Gisèle

There are days when I wondered how life could ever turn out in another way (the best way).

When the sound of birds in the morning would sound like a song of hope instead of an unpleasant noise.

When the smile of my face would match what’s inside of me.

When I would believe people in my life more without doubting their friendships and honesty.

When I would see the world more than a spherical object that rotates around the sun.

I wondered what would change my life and how it would happen.

Less did I know that the only way to unblock ways is to break the chains. The only path that leads to healing is hearing one’s heart and having mercy for oneself.

I later realized I was taking it too far, to where I was losing myself instead of getting myself together.

I realized all the days I spent suffering and crying would have been days I would have lived fighting to become someone I would confidently call ME.

I realized the only thing that was in my way was none but ME. Yes, I was blocking my own self! I always took my situation as an excuse. I justified my rudeness and hatred for others because I felt manipulated. See!

Sometimes we block our happiness and our own blessings while destroying our future in ways we think we are becoming who we are suppose to be. We think we were born that way and start living like it was our destiny.

We refuse to accept. We deny the accuracy of the situation and its reality.

We beat ourselves so hard because we do not want to heal unless we've suffered and cried enough (proving ourselves all the pain is real I suppose).

We set pillars to block our eyes to see opportunities that come our ways and choose to dwell in loneliness and anxiety.

We decide to lock ourselves inside a cage where we want to feel safe, where we believe we would be safe, and find more reasons to suffer.

We think we are alone while we certainly are blocking others to see what we are going through before we've gone too far and too deep.

Why would anyone do this to themselves? Why would we hide who we are and how weak we are although sometimes we want to scream loud for help but think nobody cares?

Maybe it's because we are too naive to understand that it is WE, the only people, Yes, WE who need to hear OURSELVES.

I, only needs to cry out loud before anyone else.

I, only can scream...

“Somebody hear me plz!”

“Somebody help meee!”

“Somebody show me a little love!”

“Somebody show compassion!”

“Somebody give me a huge hug!”

The only person to pity for me, to walk the walk and calm my temper and spirit is ME. It's me who needs to learn, forgive, and forget because I am doing it for no one else but myself.

It is okay to suffer, it is right to cry and sigh very hard, it is not bad to live in the dark and challenging days, but it is so cowardly to remain there.

Yes, I said coward, because I’ve been there. So, I must know what it feels like to see life turn out in a better way. Something I wish every person would experience in their lives.

It is better to understand that a past event needs to remain in the past and not destroy the future.

It is also important to remember dark days because they remind us that nothing can ever be uncontrollable.

Accept, Embrace, Carry & Move.